Life Without Self-Love

Life Without Self-Love: 28 Days Of Self Love- Day 2

by Candace L. Smith

Thank you for joining the 28daysofselflove challenge.  I want to challenge you to participate in these conversations with me for 28 days and join in the discussion and activities. We will have homework to help incorporate some new ideas and new habits into our lives right now where we’re at.

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What is self-love?

The more important question is what is lifelike without it.  I’ve learned that it means having a high regard for your own well being and happiness.  But there was a time when I did not realize that.  My life without self-love was a life without caring for myself.  

I was exhausted all the time, but I continued to find excuses for why I should just keep going.  My health was failing.  I did not make time to address health concerns and I did not make time to follow up with doctor appointments.  My diet was poor.  I ate whenever and whatever without any planning.  I did not have an exercise regimen and my sleep schedule was lax. 

What life looks like when you love and care about you?

You are healthy or attending to your health. You have a health plan. (That’s one thing we will develop throughout this challenge so stay tuned.)—I will offer a $10 service to develop these plans)

Your relationships are healthy.  You have boundaries.  You don’t have a problem saying no.  You address situations. When you love you…you are not as easily affected by what others do.

My emotional happiness was tied to others and things. When I didn’t care about me every offense destroyed me.  My life was predicated upon what others did.  If they were good, I was good.  If they were good with me then my life could go on. 

How has developing good self-love and self-care habits have improved my life, my relationships and my business.

Now that I am showing love to myself daily when others are up or down, I remain in my same state.  I don’t find myself going up and down with others.  Now that I tell myself that I love me I don’t get so excited when others tell me that I lose my everlasting mind.  And I also don’t feel so flattered.  I also have a higher standard for love.