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Ask Candace - Why Do I Still Struggle To Love My Body?

Ask Candace Is Back - #2



There’s something powerful about questions that linger.

A while back, we invited readers to write in, about love, bodies, confidence, boundaries, and the quiet thoughts that don’t always make it into group chats. The responses came. Some arrived quickly. Others trickled in over time. And a few sat with me for a while, waiting for the right moment.

That moment is now.

Ask Candace was always meant to be a space where honesty could breathe. Not perfection. Not performance. Just real conversations about navigating life in a body, and a world, that often has too many opinions.

Since our last column, so much has shifted. Bodies are being policed again. Thinness is being repackaged as “wellness.” Dating feels heavier. Many of us are healing, unlearning, starting over, and redefining confidence on our own terms.

So we’re bringing Ask Candace back, not because I have all the answers, but because sometimes what we need most is to be reminded that we’re not alone, not broken, and not asking for too much.

If you’ve ever whispered a question to yourself and wondered, Is it just me? — this space is for you.

With love,

Candace





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