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Boundaries 2.0

 Boundaries 2.0 

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I never realized how important boundaries were until I learned about them.  Like seriously, I was in my 30s before I understood what boundaries are, why they're needed and how to properly set them in your life.  When I did begin to set them I set them for people that were outside my immediate circle.  I'm calling this blog post Boundaries 2.0 but there was definitely more pieces to the puzzle that I didn't realize.







My boundaries are super important to me these days. I guess bc I’ve gone years without them. 

Looking at this list almost triggers me bc it reminds me of the times very close people who said they loved and cared about me continued to break my boundaries only because they thought they could. 

They thought it was not a big deal even though I expressed my displeasure. They were so comfortable with me not enforcing my boundaries or having conditions to breaking my boundaries that it was sorta like I didn’t have one in the first place. 

I always have to remember to set boundaries and reinforce them as well. 



Photo by: Jose Pagan Photography
Jumpsuit by: Style Your Curves
Click link to purchase other plus size fashions
 https://www.styleyourcurves.com/discount/PHATMAG2021



What will you do when someone oversteps the boundaries you put into place? 
What will you do if they continuously break them? 

These are questions I didn’t ask myself before and when I did I didn’t think about the people closest to me that I love and care about. I set boundaries for people outside my immediate circle but that was a mistake. 

The boundaries are really for the ones we love and care about so our relationships can remain healthy and in balance. 

Thank God those people who couldn’t respect my boundaries are out of my life and I can move forward 💯 #boundaries


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