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Day #25 - Friday Self Date Day- A Night To Remember #28DaysofSelfLove

 A Night To Remember

by Candace L. Smith

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We're winding down to our last few days of the 28 Days of Self Love Challenge.  It's the last "Friday Date Day" suggestion and we want you to make this a night to remember.  

Growing up I was a tom boy.  I loved to play outdoors with my older brother but my mom wanted me to be a model.  She invested a lot of money into several modeling agencies, photos, wardrobe and so much more.  She even invested in a finishing school for me, and yes I had to walk with a book on my head, and sit down and stand up and walk up and down stairs with a book on my head.  At the time I thought it was silly and at first I didn't take any of it seriously.

The instructor was this beautiful black woman that looked like she just stepped off the runway.  I remember one class I attended where she asked every girl there to imagine their prom night.  At this time I was like 14 or 15 so I'd never been to prom but I couldn't wait for the opportunity to go.  It was something I'd imagined since middle school.  

She then asked each of us to share what we would do to prepare for the prom.  We all admitted to shopping for the perfect dress, and making sure our hair was perfect and putting a lot of effort into how we looked.  When we all finished sharing she looked at us and said that is how you should prepare yourself everyday.  Everyday you should put that much effort into your wardrobe and appearance.  

I valued what she said that day and I began to put a lot more time in preparing myself for the day.  For this "self date day" put forth just as much effort as you would for a special date with someone special.  

Dress to impress!


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