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He Prepared A Place for Me

The #28daysofselflove challenge started a few years ago and it was an attempt for me to carve out some time in my life to address how I was loving me.  I was looking for love and wanting love from others, but I never really asked myself how I was loving me.  How much did I love me?  Do I love me enough to address my issues?

Do I love me enough to:

-        Set boundaries

-        Communicate properly

-        Address issues head on

-        Learn to resolve conflict

-        Learn about my triggers and figure out how to manage them

-        Understanding what it takes to be mentally well

-        Self-care and why it’s important

-        Managing the relationships in my life

 

Started from The Bottom Now We’re Here:

I was lower than low in my spirit and in my mind.  But God “prepared a table for me… (Psalm 23:5)” God put someone in my life who could see me and help me to address my issues.  God answered my prayer. I always asked God for help and when he sent help, I was resistant and stubborn because it felt foreign.  The things that were not good for me when God began to remove them from my life- I missed them- I’d become attached to them—not addressing my issues was a shelter that I ran to.

A Low Place

When I first met Shaquania I was at an extremely low place in life.  But when I look back, I realize that if I were not in the state of mind that I was in at the time I would never have left.  I also see how God has played a role in “the worst moments of my life.”  He prepared a place for me. 

 

God Prepared A Place for Me

When I say God prepared a place for me, I mean that literally-I didn’t know you a day in my life.  I spoke with you one time on the phone and I agreed to pack up my entire life and move in with you and your family and you all basically took care of me for a few months of my life.  We had therapy sessions.  We talked.  I learned so much from that time.  And I was able to address somethings head on in a safe and caring and nurturing environment.  I felt safe. 

Shaquania Walker

Shaquania Walker has a unique set of skills that are needed not only in the church but in the community.  It’s a combination of ministry, mental health counseling, coaching and sisterhood.  She’s able to empower women who face rejection issues, abandonment issues and attachment issues.  These were my issues. It was through her that I was able to recognize me for who I am, understand how God sees me and face my issues in a “real-life” way.  


What she does is “Women’s Ministry 2.0” because she has a combination of spirituality and insights on mental health and she’s also able to draw on her own personal experiences.  She’s intuitive and she trusts God.  I see her trust God and that’s why I trust her.  I’m so excited that she has officially began to take steps to officially become a coach, but she’s already booked by me.


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