#28daysofselflove: What does Fashion Have To Do With It???

What does Fashion Have To Do With It???

I had a friend that would always tease me about how many times I changed my clothes in one day. I’d honestly never even noticed that I did that. Well, I guess I didn’t notice that it was uncommon. We spent a lot of time together so she would see me for long stretches of time and began to question why I changed my clothes. And my explanations were never enough. I would say, “Oh, well I just left school so now I’m changing into something to sit around the house in, or now I’m going to the store.” And in my head, it made sense to change clothes for the specific location or occasion, but I learned that a lot of people keep on the same clothes all day long. And don’t get me wrong I’m not judging. If you don’t judge me on my frequent wardrobe changes (for nothing) then I’m good!

What I noticed over time though is that I totally stopped doing that. I wouldn’t change as many times per day or depending on where I was going. I wouldn’t go to the same lengths to coordinate my clothes with beautiful accessories or spend as much time on my hair or makeup. And as time went on I did less and less until eventually it became a chore to take a shower. Even then I didn’t recognize my own behavior as a warning sign for my mental state.

When I was depressed I felt exhausted all the time. I just wanted to sleep. I felt lazy and the guilt from that made me want to sleep longer. It was like the thought of a brand new day made me tired. Because of this the level of care I showed myself decreased.

Now, I’m not saying that if you go a week without washing your hair you’re depressed. My message is quite simple today. KNOW YOU! If I based my wellness solely on the behaviors of most people and how they behave I may miss somethings.

It’s important to know who you are and how you respond to situations. Now when I recognize that I don’t have the same desire to care for myself I take a step back to examine different areas of my life.

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